Name Change List for Newly Married Babes


I’m going to be real here. The name changing process sucks. It’s long, frustrating and hard to determine what all needs to be changed and when.

To help my fellow newlyweds out, I compiled a list of where to change your name and tips for how to do it in order to make the process as efficient as possible. I’m also a huge fan of lists and wasn’t able to find a good consolidated one when I was changing everything, so I hope this helps someone else out there!

Step 1: Marriage license

Get three to be safe. You’ll want to keep one on file and then will have to send in a couple copies during the name change process.

Step 2: Social Security

First, make an appointment at your local SSN office. Then, fill out the application, print it and bring to the SSN office. You will receive the new copy in 10 business days.

  • Bring all forms of ID and paperwork – old license, marriage license, new social security card, birth certificate, and name change

Step 3: DMV

Schedule an appointment for at least two weeks after your SSN appointment. You’ll need your new SSN card in order to get a new license. FYI, apparently when you get a brand new ID, you go into the system to be called for jury duty. I got my letter about a month after I went to the DMV!

  • Bring all forms of ID and paperwork – old license, marriage license, new social security card, birth certificate, and name change
  • Complete form DL 44

Step 4: Banks

Once you get your new license, you can change your bank information. Bring your ID and marriage certificate to the bank. Now’s the time to switch bank accounts or join with your hubby. We’ll save that convo for a later date.

Step 5: Misc

  • Credit Cards – These are pretty easy, at least with Chase & CapitalOne. I was able to change both of mine online!
  • Bills – Now that your bank info has changed, you’ll want to update all of your auto-pay info with your new name.
  • Passport – You’ll need to purchase a new passport Fill out the application and bring passport photo, birth certificate, certified copy of marriage license, and ssn card to a local post office or place that makes passports. They will take everything from you and mail it back in a few weeks.
  • TSA Precheck – Make an in-person appointment, bring your marriage license, and may as well bring copies of your legal docs. It took 6 months for them to change my name after my first phone call.
  • Airline Accounts (Southwest) – This will vary from airline to airline. For Southwest Rapid Rewards, name change requests must be submitted in writing to Rapid Rewards, P.O. Box 36657, Dallas, Texas 75235. Written request must include a letter about your new legal name, member contact info, RR account number, and photocopies of legal docs (old and new photo ID & marriage license). If you already have a flight booked with your old name, email – submit copy of old & new ID, copy marriage license, and flight numbers to change.
  • Employee Benefits – Update your name with your company and they will help you change your benefits information.
  • Home – Title company & mortgage company
  • Auto – Car registration & auto insurance
  • Gym Membership
  • Voter Registration

Did I miss any important ones? Let me know!


How to Preserve Your Wedding Bouquet

DIY Dried Flower Frame

After months of planning your dream wedding, suddenly it’s over. All of the details you pined over for the past year waiting to be boxed up, thrown away or donated. Luckily for us DIY-ers, there are plenty of ways to reuse wedding décor, add a very personal touch to your home, AND get a daily reminder of your special day.

I’m all about memorabilia, and my bridal bouquet was something I definitely wanted to remember. I decided to try a couple different DIY projects to preserve the flowers: hanging a bridesmaid bouquet to dry and pressing my bridal bouquet flowers to create a DIY piece of art for our home. I am obsessed with how the framed flowers turned out and get to walk past it every day in my hallway!

What You’ll Need:
  • Kitchen scissors
  • Books
  • Paper
  • Large floating frame (The biggest I could find was 20×24)
  • Hot glue gun (I used a flower detail glue gun and it worked great)
  • Optional: vows printed on paper
  • Optional: ribbon from bouquet

Florals by Ahnalise Draper @gingerroots_ca

Disassemble Your Flowers

The day we got home from the wedding, I set to work on cutting flowers from my bouquet off each stem. I cut most of them to ensure I had plenty for the frame. In retrospect, I would have let them dry out a for a couple more days.

Thicker flowers like roses can be cut in half or you can pull out as much of the center green part as you can to spread it out in a circle. I ended up liking the round ones best after they dried.

Dry Your Favorites

Place flowers between two sheets of parchment paper and squash down inside a book. After you’ve gotten all of your flowers inside of books, pile them in stacks in a closet or other dark space. Add some heavy books on top to weigh them down more. After at least two weeks of drying, you can gently take out your flowers.

  • Blue thistle surprisingly dried perfectly in its full form, although I did try cutting them in half as well.
  • Carnations ended up not looking so pretty, so I used them underneath other flowers to add texture.
  • Peonies kept the most color, especially the pink one in my bouquet, which turned out to be a pale shade of purple when dried.
  • Snapdragons turned out great and I wish I had dried more!
  • Greenery and wax flowers made for nice borders around the vows sheets and other flowers.

NOTE: Make sure to let them dry out for a couple days before pressing them. I pressed them right away when they still had water in them so some of the larger flowers, like the roses, ended up ruining pages in my books and molded a bit during their time in the closet.

Arrange & Glue

Now comes the fun part and probably the toughest, since your flowers will be fully preserved (AKA not moving) once you glue everything down. I printed our vows on paper that looked like wood to go along with our rustic wedding theme and placed the flowers around them. You can also incorporate other flat items, such as the ribbon from your bouquet.

Cheers Claudette 2

Tips for Wedding Planning on a Budget


Last September, Matt & I got married in Sacramento in my mom’s backyard and celebrated with 125 of our closest friends and family. I originally thought we’d be able to coordinate our wedding for $10K…psych! Even having it in my parent’s yard came with its own additional costs: table rentals, linens, lighting, etc. We had to figure out absolutely everything since nothing was included with the venue. While we were able to get our budget down to under $20K, I was shocked by how fast everything adds up.

Still, we were able to come in almost $2,000 under our budget and I was quite happy about that! After months of planning, research and very meticulous attention to my budgeting sheet (I love Excel), I came up with a few tips to help my fellow brides out:

Make a budget spreadsheet. I hear a lot of people say they have no idea what they spent on their wedding. Of course, the goal should be to spend less than your max budget and the only way to know if you’ve accomplished this is to log ALL wedding-related expenses on your spreadsheet throughout the planning process.

Our budget consisted of columns for “budgeted”, “projected” and “actual” costs. “Budgeted” should have very rough estimates and the max you will spend on specific line items in order to fit within your max budget. “Projected” should have more specific estimates and the “actual” column will have the final amount spent. If you are having a DIY wedding, you likely won’t be able to fill out a portion of these until after the wedding, but at least you’ll have an idea beforehand.

Get multiple quotes and rough estimates before setting your budget. I had no idea what certain things would cost, so I collected basic info about various costs and vendors in order to create my “budgeted” column. This gave me a better understanding on what things would cost and where I would need to cut back.

List out what’s most important to least important to you. Determine a few things that are crucial and that’ll be where you splurge or focus more of your budget on. While hand carved nameplates on quartz slabs might be amazing to have at your wedding, it might not be a crucial item, which means it may need to be cut from the decor plan. For me, awesome photos, a huge cheeseboard and good music were most important, and therefore things I didn’t want to skimp on.

Find a venue that allows BYO. Many vendors require you to use their caterer or preferred partners. If you’re lucky, you can find the perfect spot that will let you bring in your own booze and/or your own food. That way, you can get quotes from various catering services and ultimately find something more affordable. To see my list of Orange County venues, what they cost and include, click here. Having more control over your wedding takes more planning, but also saves you money.

Easily find vendors within your budget. Use to set your budget for a specific need and you’ll get quotes back from a few vendors within 24 hours.

Avoid telling vendors it’s for a wedding. A lot of vendors upcharge for weddings. Sometimes you can’t get away with NOT sharing this *tiny* detail, but do your best. “Oh I’m just having a big party…for like 150 people”.

Utilize your resources! A lot of times, your friends or family will be someone or know someone who can help and will do an amazing job. If you’re willing to work with a vendor who doesn’t necessarily do their trade full-time, it’s likely to be a lot more affordable (or free!). My aunt worked on calligraphy, my coworker created our table numbers & printed graphics, my friend’s friend made our bouquets last minute, and a family friend who DJ’s for a lot of charity events became our awesome DJ!

Huge thanks to all of our amazing vendors!

Photographer: Rachelle Photography
Pizza: Paul’s Rustic Oven
Day-of Coordination: Events by Christina
Hair: Meghen Lord
Makeup: Kelli Renault
DJ: Greg Andrews
Florist: Ahnalise Draper
Calligrapher: The Lovely Hue
Graphic Designer: Joy Shows
Videography: My grandad
Dress: Isolde by Anais Anette
Dress Shop & Alterations: Love & Lace Bridal Boutique
Shoes: Betsey Johnson
Jewelry: Kendra Scott



10 Wedding Tips from a Just-Married Gal

So…I’m married!! And the wedding was AWESOME. Getting married in my parents’ backyard was quite the undertaking but it was so worth it for how amazing everything turned out.

Looking back, I have a few tips for future brides:

  1. Try out your first dance song ahead of time. We had picked the song “At Last” by Etta James about a year before we got married. It wasn’t until we drunkenly tried it out in our living room two weeks before the big day that we realized it was way too slow and totally not us.
  2. Don’t DIY everything. At a certain point in time, it’s really important to give yourself a break. We had planned to make our bouquets the day before the wedding, but last minute I decided I didn’t want us to stress over it. I was fortunate to have a friend of a friend who was able to arrange them and we picked up the flowers ahead of time.
  3. Keep your future hubby involved. Go over the major timeline items with him and let him know what’s what and the significance of each. You might have to do this a couple times in the hopes that at least 50% sticks.
  4. Garters come in two! You will have two garters…one to keep and one to throw. Make sure your future hubby knows which one to toss (the one further down your leg and closest to him).
  5. Re-communicate any important details with your vendors the week of the wedding. It was really important to me that we had an anniversary dance that started with my grandparents who had been married 51 years. They had picked the song “Something” by the Beatles but our DJ thought that meant anything by the Beatles and he didn’t happen to have the right song the night of. Luckily my grandparents quickly picked out Hey Jude and started off the dance floor, but I wish I had discussed this is further detail with our DJ ahead of time.
  6. Make sure your immediate family knows to sit in the reserved section. We didn’t have anyone to tell our families, so no one ended up sitting in the front row except our parents…oops! If I could do it again, I would have our younger cousins, who know our family, guide my grandparents to their seats.
  7. Take pictures with your bridesmaids on our phone. I barely have any photos of us because I left it all to the photographer to take care of. This is great and all because I know they’ll be awesome, but waiting 5-10 weeks for professional photos with your girls is way too tough.
  8. Hire a day of event coordinator. I cannot stress this enough. If your venue doesn’t have someone to set the tables and add your decor, you need to hire someone to at least coordinate this on the day of. I used to intern as a wedding planner and I saw so many families struggling to do all the last minute tasks on the day of the wedding. Let your mom, aunt, and grandma enjoy your special day too!
  9. Stick with your hubby for the night. My husband and I host a lot of parties and we always joke that we never see each other during them. While this is okay for any other day, try your best to stick together and get as many photos with your guests as you can. We talked about this ahead of time but still ended up being separated most of the night except on the dance floor. Another thing to note…it you want posed photos with guests other than your family (versus just candids), make sure to let your photographer know ahead of time.
  10. Don’t sweat the small stuff…or the big stuff. With so many details, things are bound to go wrong or not as planned. I promised myself that starting the week of the wedding, I wasn’t going to stress about details and would go along with pretty much any suggestions or questions asked of me. Whatever makes life easier for you, your family and wedding party, do it. And like everyone says, no one will notice what goes wrong except a couple people so you may as well just relax and enjoy every minute because it really does go by way too quickly!

Happy planning!


Orange County Wedding Venue Breakdown

Let me first just say that I originally thought I could plan a wedding for under $10k. Psh, yeah right. What I quickly learned is that most venues charge over $10K just for the venue, rentals, food & bar. The ones that don’t still charge a venue, table & chairs rental fee of about $5,000 or more. Swallowing my pride thinking that I can do anything DIY for cheap, we charged ahead, looking for the best bang for our buck, while still nailing most of our wishlist.

Our wishlist: outdoor ceremony & reception with lots of trees & bistro lights, 6+ hours of event time, and hopefully a food truck and/or BYOB option.

Surprisingly, this mythical spot is extremely difficult to find. Many only have the reception inside, others only allow you to have the venue for 5 hours of event time, most don’t allow outside catering, and very few allow BYOB.

Anyway, before checking out a few wedding venue locations in Orange County, I spent a fair amount of time researching and price checking quite a few venues in the area. Since we ultimately decided to hold the wedding in my parent’s backyard in Sacramento (and are able to cross off all of our wishlist items), I thought I’d put my extensive research to use with a blog solely about venues in OC.

So here it is all laid out in what I hope is a helpful fashion. Everything’s based on Saturday pricing in peak season, so it could change based on your preferences. I based the total estimate on 150 people (when it’s a per person situation), 4 hours bar service and choosing the lowest cost options for comparison (no appetizers included).

Sherman Library and Gardens in Corona Del Mar

Estimate: $4,000

  • Price breakdown: $2,000 + $2,000 membership fee.
  • Includes: Venue for 6 hours.
  • Notes: Must used their approved caterer.

French Estate in Orange


  • Includes: venue for 6 hours, tables & chairs, and shuttle service.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception in the backyard of a large home.
  • Notes: BYO everything. Limited amount of weddings per year.

Wilcox Manor in Tustin


  • Includes: Venue, rentals & lighting.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception in the backyard of a large home.
  • Notes: BYO everything.

Credit: Wilcox Manor


Griffith House in Anaheim

Estimate: $5,000

  • Price breakdown: $3,500 + $10/pp for rentals and coordinator.
  • Includes: Venue, rentals & coordination services.
  • Space: Outdoor lawn area for ceremony & reception outside of a cottage style home/church.
  • Notes: BYO everything. Great value, but the surrounding neighborhood is a bit sketchy and the lawn is right next to a very busy street.

Eureka Building in Irvine

 Estimate: $5,350

  • Price breakdown: $2,800 venue + $12 pp for rentals + $5 pp for table settings.
  • Includes: Venue & rentals.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception under a trellis.
  • Notes: BYO everything.

Red Horse Barn in Huntington Beach

Estimate: $5,500

  • Includes: Venue only, but they offer all-inclusive packages as well.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception.
  • Notes: Must use approved DJ and bartender.

Serra Plaza in San Juan Capistrano

Estimate: $7,000+

  • Price breakdown: $7,000
  • Includes: Venue for 5 hours, tables & chairs for 200, and vintage furniture.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception in a pretty courtyard.
  • Notes: Must use one of their preferred caterers for food and alcohol.

Villa Del Sol in Fullerton

Estimate: $7025

  • Price breakdown:  $5225 venue + $12 pp rentals
  • Includes: Full use of Courtyard and Terrace, Villa Suite and valet parking/security.
  • Space:
  • Notes: Event time frame is 5 pm – midnight and catering required from one of 4 onsite restaurants.

Credit: Villa Del Sol

Wedgewood San Clemente

Estimate: $7,350+

  • Price breakdown: $49 pp for crystal package.
  • Includes: venue, dinner, DJ, invites, champagne toast and rentals.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony on golf course; Indoor reception with cocktail hour on outdoor deck.

Parker Ranch in Trabuco Canyon

Dream outdoor venue right here, but don’t bother looking into it because they are currently only renting the space out to family and friends.

University Club in Irvine


  • Price breakdown: $4,000 outdoor reception + $1250 outdoor ceremony + $28 pp for dinner
  • Includes: venue for 5 hours & food
  • Space: Outdoor and indoor options.
  • Notes: Currently closed for renovations.

Long Beach Museum of Arts

Estimate: $13,800+

  • Price breakdown: $500 ceremony site + $4,000 reception site + $9,300 buffet & standard bar.
  • Includes: Venue, rentals, food & bar, heaters, coordination.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony and reception with an ocean view.
  • Notes: Includes 5.5 hours event time.

Rancho Las Lomas

Estimate: $18,250+

  • Price breakdown:  $8,500 rental + $1500 lighting + $34 pp Silver menu + 21 pp beer & wine bar.
  • Includes: venue, rentals, lighting, catering & bar.
  • Space: Multiple outdoor and indoor ceremony/reception spots.
  • Notes: This place is insanely gorgeous and has plenty of options for where you want your reception/ceremony to be.

Colony House in Anaheim

Estimate: $16,500+

  • Price breakdown: $6,500 + $10,000 food minimum
  • Includes: venue, security, standard lighting, and tables & chairs for 250
  • Space: Indoor ceremony & reception in a brick/modern/industrial area.
  • Notes: Food, beverages and rentals must go through 24 Carrots Catering (lowest cost: $30 pp for food; $18 pp beer & wine).
colony house

Credit: Wedding Bee

Franciscan Gardens in San Juan Capistrano

Estimate: $17,500+

  • Price breakdown: $7,500 rental; $10,000 food minumum.
  • Includes: venue, chairs & tables, security, & basic bistro lighting.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception. They are currently renovating a very cool indoor brick space to use for either reception or ceremony.
  • Notes: Food, beverages and rentals must go through 24 Carrots Catering (lowest cost: $30 pp for food; $18 pp beer & wine). Space available until midnight for up to 200 people.

Mount Palomar Winery in Temecula

Estimate: $18,000+

  • Price breakdown: $120 pp
  • Includes: venue for 5 hours, food & bar, and rentals

Strawberry Farms Golf Club in Irvine

Estimate: $20,250+

  • Price breakdown: $1500 ceremony site + $1500 terrace site for cocktails + $92 pp dinner (minimum $12k) + $23 pp beer & wine bar.
  • Includes: Barn, rentals, dance floor, cake cutting.
  • Space: Garden ceremony and reception in Big Red Barn for up to 250.

Bella Gardens Estates in Murrieta

Estimate: $22,249

  • Price breakdown: $18,999 for 100 guests plus $65 pp over 100 guests
  • Includes: 3 days/2 nights stay for 10-14 people, all rentals, coordination, 2 photographers, buffet + appetizers, servers, and DJ. They have a couple other smaller packages available as well starting at $8,000.
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony & reception at a large estate.
  • Notes: Probably the best all-inclusive deal you can find in the area.

Bella Collina Golf Course in San Juan Capistrano

Estimate: $22,000+

  • Price breakdown: $5,700 + $59 pp dinner/appetizers + $14 pp first hour bar / $8 pp each hour after
  • Includes: venue, tables & chairs, food & bar
  • Space: Outdoor ceremony and indoor reception.
  • Notes: Great views from inside and two large patios areas during cocktail hour & reception. The chairs provided aren’t my style so we would’ve had to rent others.

Galway Downs in Temecula

Estimate: $24,500+

  • Price breakdown: $139 pp for classic package + $25 pp for beer & wine bar
  • Includes: venue, food, coordination, DJ, and rentals

The Ranch at Laguna Beach

Estimate: $25,000+

  • Price breakdown: $25,00
  • Space: Various spots for ceremony & reception


Happy hunting!